How Responsible are you for someone?

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 Often , we find ourselves worried that someone doesn’t help us the way we wanted or expected or listen to us or if they do, they don’t understand us to our needs.Then, we may try to explain them, to help understand or give us a proper suggestion or support.


Well, of these, how much do we notice that our so called worry ,as stated above, inclines more towards our self than others?


Yes, it does!


When you have a problem and you feel like sharing with your friend , in an expectation that he would listen to you attentively and suggest you ways to solve the problem. 


While your friend hears you , he might not be able to give you an upright perfect solution. As he is the third person, and he had only heard from you and he could suggest based on his own experiences and perspectives .So, there is always a chance that the suggestion might or might not be helpful.


Say, the suggestion was not satisfactory to you, and you try to explain them further and further to help them understand like you understand yourself ( which is where you go wrong with the expectation - no one can understand yourself like you can ), and you only end up being exhausted.


Here is the deal , Understand these basics of your responsibility.


You might be responsible for someone’s understanding of something when you are TEACHING them that thing.

That’s when you can try finding different ways to let them understand.


But , you are not responsible for their understanding, when you are sharing / telling / saying something.

You say what you say, or tell or share . There ends your duty. 

Whether they respond/ react / answer / understand or not is all their work to do. Not yours.


So, Stop bothering yourself with those unnecessary burdens on your head . Let them down and let them go. Feel light and feel free . And now, see that you have that extra capacity for yourself to deal with those problems or whatever it is and come up with a solution by yourself.


Remember: YOU ARE ALWAYS YOUR BEST CRITIC , AND YOUR BEST FRIEND AND YOUR GREATEST ADVISOR. 

Because, No one has done the same travel in the same path in the same shoes at the same time as you did . So, Always remember your limits on your responsibilities and understand those of others .. Respect them and stay within those limits , Help yourself from those unnecessary pressures.


Stay Happy , Stay cool! 😎 


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