The Life events

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 Was lately thinking of a lot of stuff. Here are few of them .

Have you ever felt that the things are happening too slow or too fast at times? And felt like some external pressure is pushing you more like a neighbour /relatives checking in ur job status or marriage n all n urging about the same ?

Hmm, So why is this? Why do we have to live to someone else’s expectations? We don’t have to! We don’t have to live to someone’s expectations or we don’t either have put such on someone too.That helps in a life with seldom worries - isn’t it?

Take the concept of marriage. Ya, a typical Indian marriage would have all the relatives and friends and everyone invited and perform it as a big celebration amidst everything. Cool, but isn’t all this just your way of letting your people know that ‘You met your love of life and both of you have decided to live together hereafter and are ready to be Husband and Wife’ ?

And on that big event of taking vows to start this life together, you would like everyone’s presence and their blessings and good wishes . Right?

So, the way you celebrate this event might be different but the concept behind this celebration of Marriage event is to let everyone know you both are starting a new life together !To let everyone know that, you need be sure of it first.

It’s not the other way like , you are celebrating this event because everyone asked you to and since you need a person for this to happen - find someone and get married .Right?

Then , why is it  this way sometimes?

- Hey, girl! I think you are close to your 30’s already but I don’t see a Mangalasutra or Mettelu (A necklace and Toe rings worn by married Indian woman) on you yet ? Omg, you are getting old already ......

- Hey boy! You seem to be working for 5 years already. Have you not gone onsite or are you still not earning in lakhs? Oh ,look at some random person - he earns more than you in just 2 years 🤷🏻‍♀️

- Hey girl! Don t you know to cook yet? , How will you get married then? 

- You look fat/ugly/dark/....... and relating these to other life events .


Oh come on! These aren’t at all the qualifications for those life events. You may have to learn cooking - but it would be right to ask - How will you manage at any times when you cannot buy food but only cook at home and eat situations dear , learn some cooking so you are self dependant. - Does this sound good?

You need to first be able to earn, work, cook and learn living for yourself first .And then you can help when you are married. You don’t have to earn more/ study/work because someone asks you to but do them because YOU want to. Go out , explore and learn and be yourself . Live your life, have fun, do what you wish to do and stop expecting too much from others .Age is just a number , Just keep yourself fit and healthy. 

Happy Living !😃




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